No A-Z of X-rated pleasure would be complete without discussing the G-spot.
Admittedly, it’s a controversial topic. Plenty of people claim that stimulating this erogenous zone inside a woman’s vagina can trigger uniquely pleasurable sensations and lead to incredible orgasms; others say the G-spot is a mythical invention perpetuated by the media, that simply doesn’t exist.
One thing that’s absolutely definite is that no female has anything to lose by exploring her body – both alone and with a partner – and finding out whether playing with this particular place feels good for her. Whatever you personally discover, searching for the G-spot should be a whole lot of fun for everyone involved… and potentially the most rewarding treasure hunt you’ve ever gone on!
The best sex is the sex that works for you, so if you’re both having a good time, consider your mission a success!
Durex’s complete 101 guide will help you become a G-spot genius in no time…
What is the G-Spot?
The G-spot is named after a German gynaecologist called Ernst Gräfenberg, who was one of the first doctors to describe the area in 1950 (although it was also reported on as far back as the 17thcentury by a Dutch physician).
Theoretically, the G-spot is a patch of flesh about the size of a 10 pence piece, located around 2-3 inches up inside the vagina on the front of the vaginal wall (the part closest to the stomach). Some women report that the tissue here feels different to the surrounding area – a little thicker, ridged, or slightly rougher to the touch – and that it plumps up when rubbed or when they’re aroused.
Various scientific studies have been conducted over the decades to try to determine what the G-spot really is, and what its function is. Some research suggests that it is part of the ‘urethral sponge’: a fleshy cushion of tissue surrounding the female urethra (or ‘pee pipe’, in layman’s terms) that becomes swollen with blood when a woman is turned on, squeezing the pipe in order to prevent her from accidentally urinating during sex. Other recent investigations propose that the G-spot is actually incorporated within a much larger structure called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ - or ‘CUV’ for short; these studies argue that the clitoris isn’t just a little ‘nub’ on the outside of the body, but in fact has internal ‘branches’ or ‘bulbs’ that extend down inside the walls of the vagina, and that it is these that can make the G-spot area feel extra sensitive. Perhaps the ‘G’ in ‘G-spot’ should stand for ‘we’re still G-uessing’!
Debate continues amongst scientists and specialists about the G-spot’s true identity and purpose. However, whatever the truth is behind this mysterious ‘magic button’, it is certain that stimulating that point on the vaginal wall can have a big, brilliant, blissful impact on many women. A large number say that pressing and caressing it feels intensely delicious, and can bring them to climax, sometimes in a way that feels ‘deeper’ and different to an orgasm obtained by stimulating the clitoris alone. Others swear that G-spot stimulation can trigger female ejaculation – itself a hotly contested subject, but an act that involves fluid being expelled from the genital area; in some cases just a few drops, in others a more dramatic ‘squirt’ or ‘gush’.
There also are women who state that stroking the G-spot makes them feel as though they’re going to wee, although sometimes ‘pushing through’ that initial sensation ends up with them orgasming. As with so much to do with sex and private parts, everyone is different. If G-spot stimulation does it for you, then that’s A-OK; and if it doesn’t, no sweat. It’s all about enjoying the exploration.
How Do I Locate It?
To try to find your G-spot on your own, first smooth a pearl or two of lubricant like Durex Play Feelonto your index finger, slide it into your vagina, then curl the tip towards your belly button, as though you’re beckoning someone to ‘come hither’. Rub your finger slowly back and forth, side to side, and in circling motions, paying attention to how your insides feel and respond; if you find a patch that seems puffier, harder, bumpier or ridged, you may well be in the right place. Insert your middle finger as well, if you like a fuller feeling.
Lots of women find they like fairly intense pressure on the G-spot, so as you relax into it, experiment with pressing a little harder in that area. A tapping motion can feel great. You may also want to try using your other hand to press down on the outside of your tummy, around the ‘mons pubis’, where your public hair starts to grow – this can push on the G-spot from the outside of the body (this is a great trick to use during sex, too!).
Sex toys can be a supremely useful - and insanely pleasurable – way to target the G-spot and help you enter the moan zone. A vibrator with a curved tip such as the rabbit-style Durex Extreme Thrillor Durex Ultimate Thrill is ideal: slick on some water-based lube and angle the toy so that it bends towards your stomach. The shaft of the Ultimate Thrill is slightly more rigid, so it’s perfect if you find you enjoy firmer pressure in the G-spot area, whereas the Extreme Thrill is a bit more flexible and will ‘give’ a little when you push on it. Test out different vibration speeds and patterns, and try thrusting the toy back and forth in addition.
How Can I Stimulate It?
Your partner can try to find your G-spot using their hands or a vibrator, as well – the same rules apply about using that ‘beckoning’ gesture, paying attention to tissue texture and experimenting with the speed, pressure and motion of their touch. You could simply lay on your back while they play with you, or give a ‘doggy style’ position a whirl: crouching on all fours while your lover inserts a lubricated finger or toy from behind allows them to easily press forwards and down on that special stretch of the vaginal wall. You may well find yourself crying out “O-M-G-spot!”.
As ever, communication is key: you shouldn’t be afraid to tell your lover if you want them to massage you faster, slower, more softly, or with more intensity. Try encouraging them by combining your requests with some positive feedback, so they don’t feel too disheartened by criticism, e.g. “Ooh, I love that – when you touch me really lightly it’s amazing!’ Both of you should try not to get too frustrated if finding the G-spot is causing a spot of bother; as discussed, this region works differently for different women, and some will naturally find it more mind-blowing than others. The best sex is the sex that works for you, so if you’re both having a good time, consider your mission a success!
It’s also possible to stimulate the G-spot during penetration. Using ribbed condoms such as Durex Pleasure Me or Durex Mutual Climax can help, as can sex positions like the easy-peasy ‘Raised Missionary’: this is just like standard man-on-top missionary sex, except the woman places a pillow beneath her hips or bottom to tilt her pelvis upwards, meaning his penis rubs against that key area… like Aladdin summoning the genie from his enchanted lamp! Sex from behind tends to hit the G-spot well too, especially if she drops the front of her body low while keeping her bottom high in the air. If the woman is on top, facing her lover – the ‘Cowgirl’ position – she may well discover sensational G-spot stimulation if she leans backwards (not too far though, as this can bend his shaft uncomfortably).
One final piece of good news: there is some evidence to suggest that as women get older and their levels of the sex hormone oestrogen begin to drop (usually in their 30s), the G-spot becomes more sensitive. So, even if it takes you years to find, the G-spot could feel even better when you finally discover it!