How to use toys together...
Sex toys are now in more bedrooms than ever before but some people find the idea of using them threatening. Men may see a vibrator as a replacement. Women may feel insecure about focusing on their own pleasure. However, toys can build intimacy, speeding a woman's arousal (assuming she likes vibrations - not all women do), and help close the 'orgasm gap' if the man tends to come more quickly than the woman.
Vibrators
These come in all shapes and sizes, and vary in terms of noise/power. If you're new to toys, start on the lowest setting - vibration can take a while to get used to. The Durex Extreme Thrill Premium Rabbit is contoured to help stimulate the G-spot. The Durex Play Delight Device is small and quiet, making it ideal for discreet play.
Dildos
These are non-vibrating, generally phallic and most can be worn in a harness for penetrating your partner. Some have suction cups so you can use them in the bath or shower too.
Toys can help close the 'orgasm gap' if the man tends to come more quickly than the woman.
Pleasure rings
Also known as love rings and cock rings, these toys vary from a rubber or silicone ring that helps trap blood in the penis, increasing the strength and duration of a man's erection, to more sophisticated designs incorporating a vibrating bullet, such as the Durex Play Vibrations Ring and Ultra.
Finger vibes
Designed to add vibration to manual play, these slip over the finger and can be used to precisely target pleasure. Try stroking your finger over the man's perineum or nipples during oral to add an extra buzz.
Butt plugs
Designed for anal play, these have a flared base or string for easy removal. You should never use anything anally that isn't designed for the purpose.
Masturbation sheaths
These are designed to enhance manual play for men. Some are open-ended which makes them easier to use with a lover as you can team them with oral for a mindblowing experience. Others are closed-ended which adds suction power. Try different types to see which turn you on.
New toys are being developed every day. Shop online together, choosing toys that appeal to both of you, and it can be a bonding experience - not to mention a reason to await the morning post with glee.
